Katty Kay  Anchor at BBC World News America. Author of Womenomics and The Confidence Code:  What Women Should Know

Katty Kay
Anchor at BBC World News America.
Author of Womenomics and The Confidence Code: What Women Should Know

OWN YOUR STRENGTHS

There is a lot of research out there, which shows that when women behave like men they are penalized for it. Both socially and professionally. You know a man is described as a leader whereas a woman is called a b*tch. The most important thing for women is to be authentic. We know that putting on a male suit of armor doesn’t work. It is hard to be confident if you are acting or not being yourself.

Confidence is very simple. It is the stuff that turns thoughts into action. Thoughts without action are pretty useless. Where women fall short in terms of confidence (in relation to men) is that we tend to undervalue our contribution. Our perception of our abilities is skewed low. If we can bring our perception of our ability in line with our actual ability then we have the capacity to be authentic. Then we can accept we are as good as we really are.

Try to internalize the idea that you need to be honest about your achievements and abilities. Don’t downplay them. Don’t sell yourself short in your own mind. As that is when you will stop raising your hand in meetings. Or stop asking for that promotion or risky assignment. If it takes writing it (your abilities) down on a piece of paper, then do that!